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How Do I Get My Child To Do Their Homework?

As a single mom you know you have a lot of hats to wear. Being the person in charge of making sure the school age kids do their homework is a responsibility you can’t take lightly.

Just as the homework assignments change from class to class, the way to motivate the kids to complete the homework differs according to the child. Some kids do their homework as soon as they get home from school while others put it off until just before bedtime, hoping either that the assignments will magically be done by the time they get to them, or, perhaps, just to give them a chance to stay up later.

There is no best homework schedule solution. All children are different, and all families are different. The single mom is often frustrated trying to find a good time to schedule the homework.

Successful moms find that they have to take their own schedule into consideration when trying to find the best consistent time for homework. It’s important that you’re available for support if needed so that your child doesn’t become overwhelmed. This doesn’t mean that you have to sit next to the child and hold his hand while he’s doing his homework; just that you’re available to make sure that the child isn’t distracted.

Moms with busy schedules can often become frustrated just by the thought that they have to carve out time from their day for homework that seems to have no great benefit. Many teachers assign homework as busy work, and it may seem like a senseless waste of time. Accept this for what it is, realizing that the school has a reason for this practice, even if it’s only to groom the student for the future. Don’t let the child pick up on your frustration or get the feeling that he’s wasting his time. Reinforce the idea of the importance of the homework.

Kids often need a bit of relaxation time once they get home from school, and mom usually needs a moment or two when she gets home from work. Keep experimenting with the schedule until you find a time that works the best for the whole family.

Once you’ve found a time frame that’s favorable to homework, be consistent. Make the time spent with your child a valuable and positive experience.

5 Tips for Raising Elementary Kids

Raising elementary kids can be one of the most fun times for you and your children. From age five till age nine, children are at the very beginning of one of the biggest adventures of their life: The school years. Parenting children as a single mom during this time is much like racing turtles. It requires, slow, steady, consistent nurturing to ensure that the kids can navigate the new waters of school and come out as fairly well adjusted and centered before entering the tumultuous waters of middle school and puberty. Here are some tips to help you in raising elementary kids as a single mom.

Be Confident in Them

It’s normal for a young elementary aged child to be unsure about his or her abilities and to lack some self-confidence. This is a time when they are becoming fully aware of peer pressure and the need to succeed. No matter what happens, ensure your child that you are confident in his ability to succeed. Highlight his talents, and help him find activities that focus on them so he can have many opportunities to succeed.

Be Consistent

You must be consistent with discipline during these years. Even as young as five, children see through half-hearted attempts at discipline. Without a second adult to come in and take over from time to time, it can get tiring to be consistent each and every time your child acts out, but you must. Always discipline with love and showing your child that you are confident in her ability to behave. Never let your child feel like you have given up on her, even if you are disciplining or correcting for the 50th time in a day.

Foster Friendships

The elementary years are a time when children learn much about social interaction. Gone are the days when they can blurt out whatever is on their mind and their peers think nothing of it. They need many opportunities to make friends. Regular play dates may no longer be feasible, but a sleepover or Saturday playtime at your house are important to help your child foster strong friendship and learn that everyone does things a little bit differently, and that’s OK.

Value-Centered Parenting

These years allow a child to solidify his values and decide what’s truly important in life. You need to be constantly conversing about your values. Don’t just tell your child what you want him to do, but talk about the why. Why is it important to share? Why do we need to talk kindly with our siblings and friends? Why must we show respect to mom?

Prepare for Questions

If you have been sailing through the single parent life up until now with few questions, prepare for the hard questions now. Your child is going to want to know why there is no daddy in her home. Be honest, but positive when discussing these questions with your child. Even if you harbor ill feelings towards the absent father, be guarded in how much of this you show to your children. He is their father, after all, and he may have a role to play in their life, if not now, but in the future, and they should have the opportunity to come to their own conclusions if it is reasonable to let them do so. Of course, always keep your child’s safety a priority if there are abuse issues at hand.