5 Tips for Raising Elementary Kids

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by Nicole on January 5, 2011 · 2 comments

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Raising elementary kids can be one of the most fun times for you and your children. From age five till age nine, children are at the very beginning of one of the biggest adventures of their life: The school years. Parenting children as a single mom during this time is much like racing turtles. It requires, slow, steady, consistent nurturing to ensure that the kids can navigate the new waters of school and come out as fairly well adjusted and centered before entering the tumultuous waters of middle school and puberty. Here are some tips to help you in raising elementary kids as a single mom.

Be Confident in Them

It’s normal for a young elementary aged child to be unsure about his or her abilities and to lack some self-confidence. This is a time when they are becoming fully aware of peer pressure and the need to succeed. No matter what happens, ensure your child that you are confident in his ability to succeed. Highlight his talents, and help him find activities that focus on them so he can have many opportunities to succeed.

Be Consistent

You must be consistent with discipline during these years. Even as young as five, children see through half-hearted attempts at discipline. Without a second adult to come in and take over from time to time, it can get tiring to be consistent each and every time your child acts out, but you must. Always discipline with love and showing your child that you are confident in her ability to behave. Never let your child feel like you have given up on her, even if you are disciplining or correcting for the 50th time in a day.

Foster Friendships

The elementary years are a time when children learn much about social interaction. Gone are the days when they can blurt out whatever is on their mind and their peers think nothing of it. They need many opportunities to make friends. Regular play dates may no longer be feasible, but a sleepover or Saturday playtime at your house are important to help your child foster strong friendship and learn that everyone does things a little bit differently, and that’s OK.

Value-Centered Parenting

These years allow a child to solidify his values and decide what’s truly important in life. You need to be constantly conversing about your values. Don’t just tell your child what you want him to do, but talk about the why. Why is it important to share? Why do we need to talk kindly with our siblings and friends? Why must we show respect to mom?

Prepare for Questions

If you have been sailing through the single parent life up until now with few questions, prepare for the hard questions now. Your child is going to want to know why there is no daddy in her home. Be honest, but positive when discussing these questions with your child. Even if you harbor ill feelings towards the absent father, be guarded in how much of this you show to your children. He is their father, after all, and he may have a role to play in their life, if not now, but in the future, and they should have the opportunity to come to their own conclusions if it is reasonable to let them do so. Of course, always keep your child’s safety a priority if there are abuse issues at hand.

About Nicole

Nicole Harms is a freelance writer and a busy mom to two preschool daughters. She received a bachelor’s degree in education from Maranatha Baptist Bible College, but after four years in the classroom she turned in the chalk for the virtual pen. When not researching or writing she is busy chasing her two daughters around or traveling.

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Angie January 6, 2011 at 2:51 pm

Being consistent is one of the most important things that you can do. A child will be able to better understand if there is consistency. Always go by what you said you would do and do not change it even if it means it being harder to do. This way your child can see that you meant what you said and you will follow through.


Savannah February 17, 2011 at 10:40 am

This especially applies if you’re disciplining them. If you don’t follow through when you say “no,” a child’s behavior can often get out of control.


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