Tips For Single Moms Raising Bi-Racial Children

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by Denise on December 16, 2010 · 1 comment

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Being a single mom is tough, no matter what the circumstances. It can be rough to make it alone financially, and it can be even more daunting if you are in a situation where you and the father of your child don’t get along well. But some single moms find themselves in an even more unique situation — as single parents to a bi-racial child.

At first blush, parenting a bi-racial child seems like the same as parenting any other child, but look a bit closer, and you will see many differences, all of which are very important. The bi-racial child might have questions about their heritage, or wonder why they don’t look exactly like you. For some, skin color doesn’t phase them, but for others, they will have questions about every aspect of it. This can become even more pronounced when they start school, because they are dealing with questions from their peers, and perhaps even teasing and taunting.

That’s why it is so important to raise a bi-racial child in an atmosphere of acceptance. Here are a few tips to help make that happen:

  • Demonstrate all kinds of beauty. Make a point of having all kinds of beauty represented in your home. Have white dolls as well as black dolls, Latino dolls, and fair Irish maidens. Purchase books that have a healthy balance and feature more than one race. Make a point of praising all types of beauty, and not just the differences in skin color. Point out different hair styles, body art, and even fashions.
  • Offer diverse worlds for them to explore. Invite people into your lives from many diverse backgrounds. Study different cultures and explore different languages. Take trips to other countries if you can. Show your child that who they are inside is what matters, and that in the end, everyone is different on the outside.
  • Study the world map. The world is not just black and white, so to speak. Make sure your child is well-educated in every kind of culture you can fathom. Share little tidbits of interesting things throughout their day that keeps their mind thinking in positive directions when it comes to race and diversity. Talk about history, and the struggles that race has sometimes brought to various countries throughout the world. Make it clear to them that their corner of the globe is just that — one small corner. There are so many different nationalities, races, languages, and customs out there ready to be explored!
  • Embrace it all. The differences are what make your child unique. The blending of cultures is what makes them shine. Tell them how proud you are of them, and don’t let them be hurt by the narrow-minded people they will come across from time to time. The whole world is their oyster — make certain they never forget that.

About Denise

As a mom to three girls Denise knows the difficulties of being a single parent. Denise has been working to help single moms across the country since 2007. In her free time Denise enjoys camping, riding four wheelers and just spending time with her family.

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Angie December 31, 2010 at 10:00 am

I know a family that really embraces their diversity. They practice both of the families beliefs and celebrate all the holidays that both races celebrate. It makes it much easier for the child to see where they are coming from. And the child sees how special he is because of it.


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