Kids throw tantrums, and it is your job as a mom to become an expert at calming tantrums. That said, there are times where there is nothing you or anyone else can do to stop the screaming and fit throwing. But, these are tips that usually work at calming the tantrum thrower and helping them calm down enough to see past whatever it is they are upset about.
The first and most important thing to do is to stay calm. If you get angry and start yelling, the behavior is going to escalate. If you have to count, remove yourself from the room, or employ some other behavioral technique, do it.
Next, resolve that you will not give in to the tantrum. Giving in may make this tantrum stop, but it will only make the next one bigger and better. Your “no” needs to mean “no.”
Do not attempt to reason with the tantrum thrower. She cannot understand you anyway. Instead, make sure there is nothing around that can harm the child, and, if possible, allow her to have her tantrum in a safe place. If you are in public, physically remove the child from the location to the car so the tantrum is not a public display.
Use emotional cues to help your child put words with his emotions. Phrases like, “You must feel really frustrated that you cannot play longer” can help your child understand the emotions he is feeling and learn how to verbalize them in the future without the fit.
Sometimes children can be distracted out of their fits, if you can bring out the distraction before the fit escalates too badly. Try to ask a question to get your child’s attention and require a calm answer. Remember, however, that this might not always work.
When all else fails, ignore the behavior. Ignoring behavior is one of the best ways to stop it in its tracks, because kids are not going to want to continue throwing a fit if they are not getting a response. Remember, this too shall pass, and your child is only acting normal for a child. It is not a personal attack. Calming tantrums is a skill you will learn with time, if you can remain patient and calm when they are thrown at you.