Single Moms and Teenagers: Handling the Milestones Alone

by Denise on December 21, 2010 · 2 comments

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Single moms often have to deal with special milestones alone, without a partner by their side. That can become especially tough as children become teenagers and the big milestones begin to roll in – the driver’s license, the prom, the first broken heart, and the graduation, just to name a few. Even if you are a single mom by choice, sometimes you want to share those special moments with someone who is special to you. It can be tough to turn to share the joy with someone and find that there is no one there…again.

So take steps to cope with the milestones and the emotion that comes with them by being prepared for that feeling of emptiness that will come from time to time for single moms. There are a few ways to do this:

  • Form a strong network of family and friends. Those you have around you during those most important milestones should be the same ones who have been with you through thick and thin. They will be able to boost you up when you’re down, celebrate with you when you’re happy, and be able to talk about being a single mom in ways that are compassionate and understanding.
  • Find a special friend who understands. Other single moms will understand the pressures and the needs you have at those times in your life that might be more emotional than others. Talk to other single moms who are in the same boat and learn to comfort each other when the situation calls for a hug or a friendly phone call just to “check in.”
  • Consider your reasons for being a single mom. If you are a single mom, you probably have good reason for it. You might have chosen against marriage or relationships for your own reasons. You might have been in a terrible situation and now you’re happy to be out of it. Perhaps you prefer your independence. Whatever the reason, you’re single right now, and that’s just how it is.
  • Celebrate in your own special way. My mother was a single mom for a long time, and so we formed our own traditions for those unique milestones. We would go to a midnight movie, just the two of us, with popcorn and cokes. It was a simple celebration, sure — but it was uniquely ours, and we loved the time we spent together. We were content to just focus that celebration on the two of us, and neither one of us ever missed having a third person around. We were perfectly complete as we were — just as you and your kids are.

About Denise

As a mom to three girls Denise knows the difficulties of being a single parent. Denise has been working to help single moms across the country since 2007. In her free time Denise enjoys camping, riding four wheelers and just spending time with her family.

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Angie December 21, 2010 at 6:11 pm

One of the best ways is to lean on family or good friends. But unless they are single they will never understand completely what you are going through. So I suggest you seek out a single friend. Last year, I had a few friends whose daughters went to the prom for the first time. They went to the prom parade and then went out for supper together to celebrate being great single moms raising awesome daughters!

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Savannah February 17, 2011 at 10:53 am

You can also always look for some support groups in your area as well, or online. They can provide great connections, and you can make new friends as well as receive the support you need.

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