No matter how many advertisements you are bombarded with, there is no guidebook on how to perfectly parent a child. Single moms probably know this better than anyone else. All homes are different, just as all children are unique and each parent has a one of a kind approach influenced not only on present circumstances but on their own upbringing. When there is only a single parent in the home, the responsibilities can be more challenging than in a home with two parents, but that by no means indicates that single moms cannot be wonderfully successful parents.
Simple Steps to Successful Parenting
You don’t have to be a constant cheerleader in your child’s life, but it’s important that your child knows unconditional love. Combined with encouragement, the child will thrive.
If you are the only parent involved in the day to day upbringing of your child, it’s easier for rules to be consistent. Once you set the guidelines, it’s up to you and only you to negotiate through the gray areas. As long as you are fair and the rules follow your values, it will be easy to enforce them.
Make sure that the kids know how high of a priority they are in your life. Sometimes it’s hard to tend to the needs of everyone and everything that is demanding your time. Be honest with the kids when plans have to change, but plan as much quality time as possible with your family.
Don’t do everything for your kids. Start early when teaching them about responsibilities. Let them feel like important, contributing members of the family by giving each child tasks that are appropriate to their age and capabilities.
Make sure that you are taking care of yourself. If you allow yourself to become ill because of stress or illness, you won’t be able to provide the parenting on a level that your children deserve. Take time to rest and recharge so that you are a happy presence in the home, well equipped to provide for the wellbeing of the family and the woman that your kids enjoy being around.
Remember that people are always anxious to give you advice. Unless you’ve asked for the advice, think long and hard before you second guess yourself. If your children know that they are loved and that they count on you to keep them safe, you are a successful parent. If you feel that their point is valid and that you need more information, check it out before following blindly. If you want to be a great parent, you probably are.