Moms Values vs. Peer Pressure

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by Patrice on February 3, 2011 · 0 comments

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As children grow they become more aware of how they are perceived by other kids their own age. Most kids don’t want to appear to be too much different from their friends, and will often request a change of wardrobe, hair style or even accessories that match the style of their friends. This type of peer pressure can start at any time, but has usually appeared by the time the child is approximately eleven years old.

The need to fit in with peers is normal, but it does have its hazards. Negative influences can jeopardize the child’s behavior and work to undermine the values that the single mom has struggled to instill in her child.

Once the child is free of moms’ watchful eye, individual choices have to be made. Does the child act in the way that they know mom would like them to act or do they ch0ose to act in a way that will put them in a favorable light with their friends?

Peer pressure is not always a bad thing. Friends can often provide a positive influence in the life of your child. They can help your child become more confident and to expand their boundaries by accepting new challenges. But many times the child is presented with the choice to do what is right and what will make him look good to his peers.

A single mom knows how important it is to have good communication with her child. She can use the open lines of communication to discover what types of peer pressure her child faces on a daily basis.

Encourage the child to talk about his or her friends. A casual and open conversation is usually all that is needed to alert the single mom to any dangerous situations that may be lurking in the child’s future. If the child brings up an instance of verbal or physical bullying on the playground, the single mom can step in and reinforce her values, letting the child know that a bully is a bully and not a friend.

If the child wants to have a certain type of accessory because she feels that her  friends will not think as highly of her, mom can again step in and reassure the child that material possessions make no difference in deciding whether a friendship is accepted or rejected.

Single moms can often avert potential peer pressure problems by teaching the child good decision making skills. When presented with a challenge by their peers, the well prepared child will take a moment to think before the choice is made.

About Patrice

Patrice Campbell is a freelance writer working from the Denver area. Campbell started her writing career in the 1980’s, working for several Wisconsin local papers as a news, human interest and features writer, as well as a photographer.

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