Motherhood is always challenging, and there is never one type of “motherhood” that is more challenging than another. When we turn motherhood into a competition, no one gets the support they need, and while neither one is “harder” than the other, they all come with their own challenges and difficulties.
Moms are usually categorized into groups, and you have working moms, work-from-home moms, and stay-at-home moms. Either group has its own challenges, and stay-at-home moms have their own struggles that they have to face. While they may love being home with their children and providing for the home, they have things that they wish people would know.
Specifically, there are things they wish their husband knew. If mom is staying at home, the chances are good that her husband leaves the house to go to work every day.He may come home tired, and frustrated, after a long day at the office, and he may not fully understand what his partner has gone through all day. That is why we have 10 things that stay-at-home moms want their husbands to know.
10 I Don’t Get To Leave
According to Desiring Good, being a stay-at-home mom is a job, even though there is no paycheck. However, that also means that there is no clocking out at the end of the day. Mom doesn’t get to hang up her boots and punch out. It is a 24/7 job, and this is part of the reason why she needs that break when you walk in the door.
9 I Just Want To Be Appreciated
It is easy for a stay at home to feel unappreciated. Every day is routine, and there are many things she does that no one notices, and this can be hurtful. According to Rule This Roost, stay-at-home moms just want to know they are appreciated occasionally. It also doesn’t have to be a huge gesture, it can be something as simple as a “thank you,” but flowers never hurt either.
8 I Just Want To Be Alone
This can be a hard one because stay-at-home moms don’t want to hurt their husbands' feelings, but there are times when she really wants to be left alone. She may not say this, because she doesn’t want her husband to think that she doesn’t want him around, but it can be overwhelming, and mom can get overstimulated, and she needs that breakaway.
7 We Are Jealous Of You
We may never admit it, but we are jealous of you. We often think about the fact that you get to leave the house, have a lunch break, and interact with grown-ups. According to Mom, while stay-at-home moms may love their life, they do get envious, and it is normal.
6 I May Not Bring In Money, But …
Stay-at-home moms are often reminded that they “don’t have a real job,” because they don’t bring any money into the home. That they don’t provide financially, and this can make her feel insecure. She wants you to know that she may not bring in any money, but she provides services that would otherwise have to be paid for, and this is important.
5 It’s Not Easy
We should be past the stage where people think all stay-at-home moms do is sit down and watch TV, while eating chocolates all day, but there are still some who think this way, and it is important that dads know this is not what happens. Being a stay-at-home mom is hard, and it is likely one of the hardest things she has ever done.
4 I Need Your Help
Stay-at-home moms often put a lot of pressure on themselves to make sure the children and the home is perfect. They feel like since they are home all day, there is “no excuse” as to why the house gets messy, or why she can’t make dinner one night. This is not realistic, and mom needs dad to know that she needs his help too, and she doesn’t want to have to ask for it. If you see something that needs to be done, just do it.
3 Take Me On A Date
It is normal for a couple to fall into a rut when they have children. They forget to go out on dates, and they put their relationship last. Stay-at-home moms want dads to know that they still want to be dated. They want him to arrange childcare, and to take her out to dinner sometimes.
2 I’m Lonely
Stay-at-homes may not want to complain much since they are aware that most of the world thinks they are “blessed” and they should be grateful for their lives. Moms can often think that their husbands must think this way too, but she wants them to know that they get lonely. It can be isolating being a stay-at-home mom, and we need some understanding.
1 Give Me A Break
This may be one of the most important things that stay-at-home moms want their husbands to know, and that is they need a break. Not just a 10-minute break when dad gets home from work, but a real break. They want a night away, with no one but themselves. A night away at a hotel, while dad watches the kid is something most stay-at-home moms dream about.