How can I be a single parent today? That’s a question that weighs heavily on many minds in today’s world. A struggling economy and a war overseas can make one question themselves and their abilities to raise a child with the world being as it is. The answer is this; you can be a parent today by teaching your child, or children, the differences between right and wrong.
There are many authors of self help parenting books who to tell people how to be a parent. Some of them are parents themselves, and some are not. Such authors as Jane Mattes and Michael Cohen are two examples of parenting self help guides. This is not to say that you shouldn’t read any of these books. In fact, it’s a good idea to read a few. There may be parenting ideas in there that you haven’t thought of that may work for you. What this is saying is that no one book or guide is going to tell you everything you need to know on how to be a parent. You have to learn along the way.
Being a parent is a teaching and learning experience for everyone who has a child. What works for one parent and child may not always work for another. Of course, you should be willing to try out different ideas and techniques to raise your children to be the type of people you want them to be. It’s important to remember that your mother’s idea of raising children may not fit into society’s thinking today. You can use some of her ideas and make them fit into today’s way of life.
The answer to how to be a parent used to be “spare the rod, spoil the child”. In other words, be ready to punish even if it means a firm spanking and if you don’t spank your child then he will be spoiled without manners. Today, that way of thinking doesn’t fit in society’s guidelines. Parents are now learning that spanking is not always the answer and that “sparing the rod” does not necessarily mean your child will be a horrible, ill mannered little brat. Today’s thinking tells us to try different approaches to teach our children not to be horrible, ill mannered little brats. Your mother or father may tell you differently, but again, their ideas do not necessarily work today.
No one can really tell you how to be a parent or even a good parent. Your parents, aunts, uncles, and even grandparents will try, however. But it generally is something that you have to figure out for yourself. You can use clues and suggestions along the way to help you become the parent you want to be. Borrow parenting ideas from friends and family. Don’t be afraid to be firm while showing love to your child, or children. Above all remember, there are no perfect parents in this world. There are parents who strive to be perfect for their children.