Communicating With Your Child’s Teacher

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by Nicole on February 11, 2011 · 2 comments

in Slow & Steady (5-9 years)

In the early elementary grades, your child’s teacher is a vital source of information for you as a mom. The teacher can give you insights into how your child is doing socially and academically, but you must learn how to effectively communicate with her to get the most information.

As a single mom, being at school helping with class parties and other events is simply not possible. You need to be at work. However, early in the school year, arrange your schedule so you can meet the child’s teacher. Introduce yourself, and ask how you can best stay up to date with your child’s progress. This will show the teacher that you want to work together to make the most of the school year.

You need to be at all parent-teacher conferences. This is the opportunity for you to talk, one on one, with your child’s teacher. If you have any concerns, bring them up in a respectful, mutually beneficial way. If you open the dialogue with criticism, you will put the teacher on the defensive. This is not beneficial to you or your child. If you have a request, ask, do not demand. Saying “could you send home an update about Jane’s progress in two weeks,” will be taken much better than, “you need to tell me what’s going on!”

Finally, accept that you may not agree with the teacher. Sometimes, you will find your child’s teacher has a personality that rubs you the wrong way or a different teaching method than you are used to. As long as your child is receiving education and moral support from the teacher, be respectful of these differences. If you feel the differences are detrimental to your child, make a respectful request for the teacher to change, and if that is not possible, talk to the administration about having your child placed in a different classroom. Effectively communicating with your child’s teacher is extremely important when addressing this situation.

Remember, your child’s teacher and you are a team, working together to help your little one gain an education. If you can do your part as an involved mom, the teacher will be better able to do her part, and your child will come out on top.

About Nicole

Nicole Harms is a freelance writer and a busy mom to two preschool daughters. She received a bachelor’s degree in education from Maranatha Baptist Bible College, but after four years in the classroom she turned in the chalk for the virtual pen. When not researching or writing she is busy chasing her two daughters around or traveling.

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Angie February 11, 2011 at 4:22 pm

Yes you do have to work as a team with the teacher whether you like them or not. Children can sense it if you do not like the teacher and that can make it hard on the child. They may act out in class thinking you will not care, or it could hurt the relationship with the parent. Get a long and a make the best out of it.


Laurie February 14, 2011 at 9:30 am

I have to agree on this, parents mostly mothers should often communicate with their kid’s teachers. Not only for them to be aware of their child’s behavior inside the school, but also to offer the teacher the assistance and friendship. It’s also a good thing that your child will see how you are with her/his teacher.


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