Bonding with the Newborn

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by Patrice on April 13, 2011 · 0 comments

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Many new moms like to talk about that first moment when she holds her newborn in her arms, and feels the overwhelming love as the instant bond seem to burst her heart open. It’s a feeling she swears she will never forget. But, bonding is different for everyone. It’s a process, and some moms don’t realize that it’s happened until a sudden shared moment gives the feeling of being filled with joy.

The bonding process is an important part of the mother and infant relationship. For an infant, it promotes healthy development and growth, and for the single mom, it gives her a reason to get up in the middle of the night to tend to her newborn’s needs.

New moms sometimes wonder if her infant is bonding with her as they snuggle. Signs of success can be seen within days of birth if mom watches for them. Does the baby respond to skin to skin contact? If the child finds the touch soothing, it’s a sign of bonding. So is eye contact.

As the infant grows, facial expressions might be imitated with a person the baby has bonded with. A sign of pleasure at the sound of your voice, and babbling or other vocal noises in response show enjoyment as much as the pleasure the child might show at just listening to your voice.

Infants will also bond with adoptive parents, although this may not happen as quickly as it does with the birth mother. Through touch, the meeting of physical needs, and loving contact, the infant will soon share a bond with everyone in the family.

The bonding process is easier if the infant has the undivided attention of the parent. If mom has support around her to give her confidence in her parenting skills, and keep her from getting so physically exhausted that it distracts her during the moments she shares with the infant, the bonding process will evolve more successfully.

If you haven’t experienced the instantaneous bonding with your infant that you hear other moms talk about, don’t feel that it reflects on you or your baby. It may hit you the first time you see your infant smile. There are no strict rules about love.


About Patrice

Patrice Campbell is a freelance writer working from the Denver area. Campbell started her writing career in the 1980’s, working for several Wisconsin local papers as a news, human interest and features writer, as well as a photographer.

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